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To the parents of the screaming children next to us at the restaurant… To the parents of the screaming children next to us at the restaurant…
THANK YOU! My husband and I sometimes just really need a break from cooking and cleaning every night and it is SO nice to... To the parents of the screaming children next to us at the restaurant…

THANK YOU!

My husband and I sometimes just really need a break from cooking and cleaning every night and it is SO nice to be able to get out for dinner every now and again. It’s actually quite a novelty and I usually dread it because I’m so worried about what the other tables around us are thinking about the scene that’s usually created at our table.  That’s right, you heard me… I fear the judgement of others.  I try not to let it bother me, but eye-rolling hurts.  (And ps. I SAW YOU!)

Madeleine is 15 months old… food WILL be thrown.  As responsible parents, my husband and I WILL remind Madeleine that food is for eating and not for throwing, but nevertheless, the half eaten noodles and chewed-on-then-spat-out broccoli WILL end up all over the table, all over the ground (and most likely all over my husband and I).

Portia is 3.5 years old… it IS upsetting when a crayon breaks in half or water spills on her colouring page.  As loving parents, my husband and I WILL try and talk Portia down from the tears and upset that come along with crayons and paper that are now ‘unusable’, but nevertheless, there WILL be a mini melt-down (and believe me, it’s as upsetting to my husband and I as it is to you-if not more!).

Despite the chaos that comes with us dining out with young children, it’s worth it sometimes to just. have. a. break.

And when there’s a family beside us with kids roughly the same age, going through generally the same stages as our girls are, it’s just a huge relief to see that we are doing the best we can.  Kids will be kids.  Some children may sit calmly and quietly, but lots do not.  And, you know what?…

THAT. IS. OKAY!

And when we’ve collected the last pieces of carrot off the floor and we’ve gathered up the last ounces of energy we can possibly muster as hard-working, sleep-deprived, devoted parents… to hear you say, with a gentle smile on your face, as we walk past you “it’s nice to see we’re not alone”

THANK YOU! Just… thank you!!!

Jessica Blumel

Nice to meet you! I'm Jessica a.k.a North Shore Mama. This site was born out of my love for my daughters and the desire to share my motherhood journey with fellow moms. I believe we're all in this craziness called 'parenthood' together and North Shore Mama is my way of reaching out to anyone who needs a laugh, a cry or dinner inspiration. Thank you so much for reading!

  • Anahita

    May 21, 2014 #1 Author

    Oh my God! You said it right :)
    My children are 7 and 9 now but when I was reading your post it was like I was living those days all over again.
    I totally get you and here I am telling it to the world that no matter how many eyes rolls, enjoy these moments. Your children will grow older before you know it. One day soon, the four of you will sit at the restaurant nicely and enjoy a meal quietly! It is enjoyable but I sometime (focusing on sometimes) I miss those chaos days! I miss those pure no distraction mommy baby moments.

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  • Rebekah

    May 22, 2014 #2 Author

    We don’t take our boys with us much, but when we do I always worry. I love it when we get good waiters who interact with the boys and when we get seated around others who have kids.

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  • Kristina

    May 22, 2014 #3 Author

    I love this post! In my opinion, if people want quiet time, they should stay home. Just saying!

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  • Dhana

    May 23, 2014 #4 Author

    That was me until about a year ago. As soon as 5 hit things got better. We actually left a few restaurants, before even ordering, because the glares were too strong and I knew we’d be somehow persecuted if the decibels rose at all. Mind you, that was on Main street, the North Shore seems to be more forgiving.

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